When I started telling people that I make my daughters purée’s myself, I had a lot of different responses. The most common response I got was ‘wow, you must have a lot of time on your hands’. And I realised that people were genuinely perplexed as to why I would choose to make instead of buy.
I also had a few mommy friends saying they admire me and wish they had the time/energy/money to do the same. So I started writing about what I made and how I made it. This was not to justify why I was doing it, what you feed your child is your prerogative as their parent. It was not to make other mommies who choose to buy their children’s food feel bad. Most of us already feel guilty and like we aren’t doing a good enough job so my intention certainly is never to make another mommy feel inferior. It was also not to convince people to boycott grocery stores. I just wanted to show that it is possible for a busy mom to do it – should they want to.
I want to change the stereotype people have in their heads that it’s only these ‘perfect’ mommies who make healthy snacks for their kids. And let’s be honest, it can sometimes look that way from an outsiders point of view, some recipes I read have these long lists of foreign and expensive ingredients, a 2 hour prep time and an end-result photo that looks like it came out of a 5-star restaurant. That scares people off and that’s not what I am about. I want to show you that it can be quick, it can be easy and it can be cheap.
I am a mom to a very active 20 month old and I am also 6 months pregnant with my second. I also live in the real world where I have a house to clean, clothing to iron, dishes to wash and a marriage to nurture. Therefore I have my stash of shop-bought goodies that I keep for when I am in the pinch. Yes, you read right! They are not all bad and trust me when I say there are times where I am SO grateful for them. But we try and live by the 80/20 rule. 80% home-made and 20% store-bought. Emphasis on the word try. But hey, that’s all any of us can ever really do… just try.
Another interesting response I got a few times was ‘you are depriving your daughter’. But here’s the thing, she does get chips, chocolates, sweets etc – on the odd occasion. It’s all about balance. And it’s all about introducing them (and yourself) to healthy alternatives that taste just as good. They are there, we just have to look for them.
So this is what I have to offer: I am a qualified chef and massive lover of good food but most of all, I am just a mom trying to do the best I can not to mess up too badly at this confusing and wonderful thing called parenting. I will not pretend, I will not judge. Just honesty and openness, from one mom to another.